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Beginning to trust again! [Jan. 28th, 2014|08:47 pm]
rob4fun
All my life I have always been known to put a lot of stock and trust in my friends. Depending of course how close of a friendship I had with people, I would for the give a great deal of myself to them. Many of my closest friends, I would share a lot of personal information...family, secrets, hopes, dreams, etc.....of course this has always left me vulnerable, but my belief has always been that when you love somebody at any level of relationship, you should be willing to give your all towards them....be completely transparent and real....holding nothing back. I know that is not the philosophy of most, but it has always been of mine. Anything worth loving is worth risking for. I would give my life for my friends.

6 or 7 years ago, I was "taken to the cleaners" by someone I had considered one of my closest and dearest friends. I was lied to...deceived...ignored...treated like common garbage....someone I had trusted and invested a part of my life to had stabbed me in the back. As a result of all I went through, my life was changed dramatically...I found I could no longer trust people the way I use to. I kept myself very guarded and closed off from any possibility of vulnerability and hurt. The open, honest, and fun-loving people-person I use to be was scarred. I would start to make friends, then would shirk back and many that might have normally evolved into something deeper, just fizzled away. I had so much love to give to my friends, but I just couldn't out of fear....

Over the past few years, I have made great strides and some really great friends, and little by little, I have opened myself up to them....it has been a slow process....but a great deal of progress has been made.
I think I am now at a point where I can finally trust again....I think there will always be a small part of me that will remain guarded....a small voice whispering "be careful"....they say "time heals all wounds".....not sure about the "all" part....but there has definitely been a healing that I've experienced. Is it possible that someone who is a close, special, loving friend to me now could eventually do the same thing? I think yes....there are some human beings that seem to have a bent on being uncaring and selfishly hurtful...perhaps because that's how they great up....perhaps because they themselves have had hurtful and abusive relationships in their past...who knows?.....but my choice was to either go off and hide for the rest of my life....closed off and guarded, or decide to live life to the fullest...making each day a new day count for something...a new day of adventure...which will involve investing in the people I love and care for....so I choose to invest!
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Friendship [Sep. 10th, 2012|01:54 am]
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I found some poems and quotes about friendship that I wrote several years ago here on LJ...thought I'd repost:

~ FRIENDS ~

As we walk our path of life,
We meet people everyday.
Most are simply met by chance.
But, some are sent our way.

These become special friends
Whose bond we can't explain;
The ones who understand us
And share our joy and pain.

Their love contains no boundaries.
So, even we are apart.
Their presence enhances us
With a warmth felt in the heart.

This love becomes a passageway,
When even the miles disappear.
And so, these friends, God sends our way,
Remain forever near.
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FRIENDSHIP IS A PRICELESS GIFT

THAT CANNOT BE BOUGHT OR SOLD

BUT ITS VALUE IS FAR GREATER

THAN THE MOUNTAIN MADE OF GOLD

FOR GOLD IS COLD & LIFELESS

IT CAN NEITHER SEE NOR HEAR

& IN THE TIME OF TROUBLE

IT IS POWER LESS 2 CHEER--

IT HAS NO EARS 2 LISTEN

NOR HEART 2 UNDERSTAND

IT CANNOT BRING U CONFORT

OR REACH OUT A HELPING HAND

SO WHEN U ASK

GOD FOR A GIFT

BE THANKFUL IF HE SENDS

NOT DIAMONDS, PEARLS OR RICHES

BUT THE LOVE OF REAL TRUE FRIENDS
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"If all my friends were to jump off a bridge, I wouldn't jump with them, I would be at the bottom to catch them."
- Anon


"Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen to what you say. Best friends listen to what you don't say."
- Anon


"We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, we take a little of each other everywhere."
-Tim McGraw


"Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart."
- Anon

"Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher."

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it is a comfort to go hand in hand." ~Emily Kimbrough~

"People are like stained glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within." ~Elizabeth Kubler-Ross~

If you have one true friend, you have more than your share. ~Thomas Fuller~

“When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there.”

"Together forever, never apart. Maybe in distance, but never in heart.”

"Promise you won't forget me, because if I thought you would, I'd never leave."
~Winnie the Pooh~

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."
~Walter Winchell~

If all my friends were to jump off a bridge, I would not follow, I would be at the bottom to catch them when they fall.
~Source Unknown~

"If I had one gift that I could give you, my friend, it would be the ability to see yourself as others see you, because only then would you know how extremely special you are."
~B.A. Billingsly~

"A true friend is someone who knows there's something wrong even when you have the biggest smile on your face."
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Honesty [Sep. 10th, 2012|01:33 am]
rob4fun
I've been reflecting lately on the many characteristics of a true friend...a biggie that should be in all people that call themselves "friend" is HONESTY. It seems to be getting harder and harder to find in people these days...there are so many gamers and maniupulators out there who pretend to be your friend and go through some pretty convincing motions, but are as phony as the day is long! So, a song I really like that talks about honesty (there are many) is the following (enjoy):

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SuFScoO4tb0
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Shame shame [Sep. 7th, 2012|12:45 am]
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Lately, I've been marveling at humanity in general...for the most part, people seem to be good and caring...some more than others...others I find lean toward the side of rude and crude...uncaring and unfeeling. Still others I see as spineless and gutless cowards who are too afraid to face people in confrontational, but necessary conversations. Yes, there definitely seems to be a vast array of individuals at large among us...all have a role in society whether for good or bad....I must admit however, I have run across a few individuals in my life that seem to emulate ALL aspects of what was mentioned above...which can be very disheartening...makes me wonder if folks like that will ever really be happy or have a decent life at all...eh well...all we can do is be the best we can be and treat others with the respect and kindness they deserve...
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Around and around and around [Jul. 10th, 2012|02:27 am]
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I am at work at the moment....and as I stare out of my office window (I'm surrounded by nearly all glass), I see the rushing of boxes and cases and bundles of product down conveyors, around curves, up and over partitions.....I'm just amazed at all of this...it's almost hypnotic...I just wish I was happier here than I am. I am bored most of the time. The challenges are few, and the disasters experienced are riddled with insanties. But...it all continues...
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Back to the ol' grind! [Jul. 9th, 2012|03:16 am]
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Well...the 4th of July holiday has come and gone...been off work for the last 4 days and back tonight...I just hate having a dread coming back to work! I'm so dissatisfied with so many things...work, relationships, money, time, etc...maybe I'm going through a mid-life crisis! If I knew how long I am going to live I could be more accurate with what "mid-life" really is! Regardless...I feel a change is coming...no, I don't mean shaving my head and buying a Harley...but perhaps changing jobs, etc...I'm just bored I think...I need something to energize my life...mountain climbing, mud wrestling, traveling, etc...I just don't know for sure what I need...

More to come....................
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Is this true??? [Jun. 28th, 2012|03:10 am]
rob4fun
Not sure if this is true or not...but apparently, there was a leak picked up by a radio host that said Obama has an extremely hush hush program in the works for October to collect all firearms from all the civilian population of the United States. He is training DPS officers right now to call in military strikes on the civilian population.

I am hoping this is not a true story...I should check it out on Snopes...regardless of how people feel for or against civilian people owning guns, having the US Military striking out against its own people is just unthinkable!
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A not-too-bad-Monday [Jun. 26th, 2012|02:44 am]
rob4fun
It's Monday...but a not-too-bad-monday! Things are hummin' along here at the ol' grind...You know I just love it when my friends post recipes...whether it's here, FB, or wherever! I'm a cook and reading about food just puts a quiver in my liver! LOL!

So, here's a pretty awesome dessert recipe that I created some time ago and usually make for work parties, etc...

Banana Split Cake

1 box graham cracker crumbs
1/4 C granulated sugar
1 stick margarine
2 sticks butter (very softened, but not liquid)
2 cups powdered sugar
2 eggs (use egg beaters if nervous about using raw eggs)
1 t vanilla extract
1 T granulated sugar
chocolate syrup (optional)
nuts (optional)
6 bananas
2 cans pineapple tidbits (drained)
1 jar (at least 10oz) of maraschino cherries
1 16 oz tub cool whip

Melt the margarine & mix with graham cracker crumbs and the 1/4 C granulated sugar in a large bowl. Press onto bottom and sides of a 9x13" cake pan. In another large bowl (or clean out the first one), mix the powered sugar, eggs, butter until nice and creamy. Sometimes I'll add 1 plastic cup of vanilla snack-pack pudding to cut the sweetness slightly and add creaminess. Pour into pan on top of crust. Drizzle a little chocolate syrup if desired. Cut up the bananas into slices and distribute over the pan. Cut all the cherries in half and scatter the pieces over the pan. Take the canned & drained pineapple tidbits and scatter them all over the pan. Scatter nuts of your choice over the fruit (optional). I like to use walnuts whenever I make this using nuts. Spread the cool wip over fruit. Works best if the cool whip is completely defrosted so it will spread smoothly. If you add a few drops of food coloring, it will add a festive glow to the dessert. Sometimes I save 6 whole cherries and position them on top of the cool wip for presentation purposes...Let chill for a while in the refrigerator. Enjoy!
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Just another manic Monday [Jun. 25th, 2012|12:36 am]
rob4fun
Well...it will be manic Monday soon enough...Sunday nights at work are fairly peaceful...at least until about 6am comes...then all hell breaks loose! Ohhh the humanity of it all! Well back to work...but I'll leave you with this:

Top Ten Summer Blockbuster Films About Presidents
10."Jurassic Polk"
9."Franklin Delano Robocop"
8."Harding and Kumar Go To White Castle"
7."The Trumanator"
6."Prometheus S. Grant"
5."How Bubba Got His Groove Back"
4."Herbert Hoover: Fully Loaded"
3."Buchanan vs. Predator"
2."James Monroe: Male Gigolo"
1."Dude, Where's My Birth Certficate?"
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TGIF!! [Jun. 23rd, 2012|03:35 am]
rob4fun
"TGIF"...what exactly does that mean anyway? I'm working until noon Saturday, so I should probably just say TGIS! Or, perhaps TGITFHOS! (Thank God it's the first half of Saturday)! LOL!
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